All this things keep going on in our life, we can't fix them all... Between the kids, the house, the dog, the school and everything else, I cant find any time for myself...
Been a special needs mom is not easy in any way, if you have a special needs child you know what I mean, but if you don't... well that is an unexplored ground for you...
Many parents will try to tell me how to educate my kids, and yes, maybe, just maybe they are a bit annoying sometimes, but I have learn that you have to love them, and make them feel important, useful and capable every day, for me it doesn't matter if the house is a bit chaotic !!! as long as I see happy faces...
I don't want a show house, I want a home... you will find clean laundry on the baskets, so what?? its clean!!! ask my kids if they are happy?? I will rather play with them than have a perfect looking house...
I was not like this, let me tell you!!! I was always bitching about them not keeping the house clean, about me cleaning for hours, and them have them destroy it in a few minutes, all about don't do that!! stop!! etc...
My husband doesn't agree with me so much about this, we wants a perfect looking house even if that means yelling to the kids and not letting them been kids and play... BUT, what is wrong with letting the kids make a little house in the living room with blankets and pillows?, what is wrong about letting them take a bubble bath and play with paint in the tub??...
You might not agree with me... and don't get me wrong, I do all the things that I must do as a mom... I do clean the house and fix their food, I do their laundry and help them with their homework, they do have chores and expect them to do them... I don't yell at them, spank or punish them like other parents do... I do timeouts like you and take away privileges when its needed, and they respect me, love me, and behave...
Been a special needs mom change my life for the better... I'm not perfect, and I don't want to be perfect, I overprotect my kids, or at least that's what people tells me all the time, but I don't think that not letting your kids play outside without adult supervision is bad... you never know who might try to get them if they are by themselves... and no they don't sleep over a friend house, or walk to the stop bus or home alone, they are not left in the house without an adult...
I will not eat if they want my food, I will not buy new clothes if the need them before me, I will keep my old shoes but they will have new ones... I am silly with them, playful and loving... nothing wrong with that... right?
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